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  From:  Peg (ztagrl)   5/15/2001 9:44 am  
To:  ALL   (1 of 5)  
 
  32.1  
 
Please just bear with me. This is an issue near and dear to my heart. 
Thanks David. Christian reassurance is always a boost! It seems that many Christians want to look the other way on this issue. 

You are definitely right about switching to a non-chemical form of birth control. My husband and I decided to use the depo-provera shot instead of the pill. Let me just tell you that that was my first biggest mistake in marriage. Even though I only received the injection twice, and my last shot was in November, I still have not had a return to normalcy. Not to be too graphic, but I have not had a menstrual cycle since last summer. 

It's really hard to practice NCBC (as you called it. I've never heard it referred to that. The Catholic community calls it NFP-Natural Family Planning, and that's where I learned of it) under these conditions. My husband and I are using barrier methods 100% of the time right now, and are anxiously waiting for my fertility to return. 

To clear up the distinction between NCBC and the rhythm method even more, let me explain the differences. Like you said, NCBC can be practiced different ways, but the way I do is by taking my temperature with a basal thermometer daily. Since we do not use the abstinence that some users do, I tend to ignore the other symptoms of fertility. But, the patterns in temperature, along with a woman's menstrual cycle are used to predict when she ovulates. The rhythm method, on the other hand, was based on the typical monthly cycle, and did not use the scientific method that NCBC does. Basically, for women that do not have normal cycles, the rhythm method failed frequently. 

Not only is chemical birth control not fool-proof, there are many other pros to using NCBC: 

1. First and foremost, God knew what He was doing when He built us with a natural way of being in control of when we have children. Why not take advantage?? 

2. It's free! After purchasing the $10 thermometer, and taking the $60 class, if you choose, you are out no money, as you are with chemical Birth Control. 

3. I don't want chemicals in my body that are unnecessary. Not only could the pill be linked to breast cancer, they are now linking it to numerous other health implications. 

4. With depo in particular, it could take up to a year to 18 months after the last injection to conceive. Once a couple decides they are ready to have a child, they may not be able to right away. Also, depo chemicals left in the system could cause birth defects to the baby. 

5. It keeps me in tune with my body better. 

So, David, can I assume that you and your wife practice NCBC (If you are married).




 
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  From:  David (DavidABrown)    5/15/2001 10:52 am  
To:  Peg (ztagrl)   (2 of 5)  
 
  32.2 in reply to 32.1  
 
My Wife and I are separated/divorced. The divorce just became final a couple of weeks ago. I sill pray that we can get back together. We dated 6 months and were married just less than 2 years. 
She used the pill. We never did get to an intimate place in our marriage where we could make decisions together. 

Before I met her I was a volunteer counselor at a Crisis (Pro-Life) Pregnancy Center. I would talk with women that might be pregnant and give them encouragement and info for doctors and such. There is also marriage counseling at the center as well. A couple of times when all the marriage counselors were busy I would talk to people desiring marriage counseling. Then I got married! I have since Repented of everything I have ever said before I got married. To quote a familiar phrase marriage cant be explained it has to be experienced. 

I have great respect for everyone who goes through marriage counseling. And there are also Tremendous books, tapes, videos and other resources for Marriages. Everyone has problems. God made men and women differently. We Think, Act and Respond differently and this is a good thing. It is good that we are different, we have different strengths and weaknesses. We are different enough, that it takes work and effort to become a couple and to become one where each other's needs are both being met. 

Marriage, Especially Christian Marriage (because Christians Expect way much more than worldly marriages) are difficult, it takes two people to make a marriage and only one to end a marriage. But the people that preserver in Marriage have Rewards that are Eternal. 





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  From:  Peg (ztagrl)   5/15/2001 1:30 pm  
To:  David (DavidABrown)    (3 of 5)  
 
  32.3 in reply to 32.2  
 
David, 
I'm sorry to hear of your recent divorce. I will keep both of you in my prayers. 

My husband and I took only the counseling that our pastor required before marriage. He thought it was pretty senseless. So far, 9 months into marriage, I can't complain. But, let's hope that I don't ever have cause to, because I can speak from experience when I say I don't think he'd be very cooperative in counseling.




 
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  From:  David (DavidABrown)    5/15/2001 1:59 pm  
To:  Peg (ztagrl)   (4 of 5)  
 
  32.4 in reply to 32.3  
 
Most men dont want to go to counseling and for a Good reason, seldom can a man get fair representation from a counselor. 
I listed books, tapes, and videos as additional resources just for that reason. But then most of us men are not interested in those either. 

One of the better Christian Marriage resources is the Gary Smalley family. They are very dedicated to helping Marriages. 
www.SmalleyOnline.com 

We counseled with a couple of Pastors and I thought it was a mistake. It actually made some things worse because the Pastors that we saw did not have counseling gifts, they all had teaching and preaching gifts, but when counseling is needed then people should look beyond a title and should find someone who is gifted in that area. 

Thanks for your Prayers, I too am Praying for your marriage. I think every Christian marriage is a wonderful marriage. 

God Bless You, 
David 

PS If you have any links to, or info about Cycle Birth Control, please post it. Thanks! 





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   From:  Peg (ztagrl)   5/15/2001 6:25 pm  
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  32.5 in reply to 32.4  
 
Oh, yes! I forgot to add my links. 
The main message board that I frequent is mostly Catholic, but the link is the Natural Family Planning forum. There is a secular forum called Taking Charge of Your Fertility, but I personally prefer the Christian group. 

Another link (also Catholic) is The Couple to Couple League. 

I know these are both Catholic links, but don't be turned off by this. The point is, we are all Christians looking for an alternative to chemical birth control. 

I hope these help!




 
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